Look, you want to be a martyr and not get a maid in Dubai, that's your choice. As is it my choice to get a maid! I don't let her look after my kids all day, she helps me. I don't treat her like a slave, I don't pay minimum wage, I don't make her work unfixed hours, I don't ask her to do anything that I wouldn't do! I get her to free up some valuable time so that I can actually enjoy my kids and spend proper quality time with them! She does my housework, ironing, window cleaning etc so that I can take my kids out, play jigsaws etc and home cook for them. She allows me to do school runs without having to drag a sleeping baby around with me. She babysits so that the children having a loving familiar face so that my husband and I can maintain a date night and a healthy loving relationship. You don't want a maid fine! We live in Dubai where it is rare to have grandparents and other family to help out. You wanna do it all yourself and juggle kids, thats fine, just please don't try to make me feel bad about accepting a helping hand!
ha! wimp
ReplyDeleteBRILLIANT!
ReplyDeleteYeah, I wouldn't worry about it. You know what is best for your family. We have a maid and I am happy with this choice as I get to spend more quality time with my three beautiful children.
ReplyDeleteWho cares? Having a maid doesn't make you better or worse. It's only housewives with too much time on their hands who make such an issue of it.
ReplyDeleteWhy does this word "Martyr" get used so much to describe women who choose not to have a maid (or choose to have natural birth)???? There's no matyrdom about it, it's just a personal choice, why can't we just be supportive and respectful of each others choices instead of critising those who don't conform to your ideals. You live your life one way I live mine another so be it.
ReplyDeleteI like doing my own windows thanks :)
ReplyDeleteBeing a martyr has nothing to do with raising children. Its personal choice which is dictated by your lifestyle and circumstances. Some people CANNOT afford to keep a maid but still do their best and raise wonderful kids while some keep maids as an excuse to do everything else except spend the time with their kids. You probably have the right reasons and means for doing so, so good on you but if others cant then its because of their circumstances and we are not to judge that too.
ReplyDeleteI toyed with the idea of having 'help' but decided against it. Purely because most maids and nannies I have spoken to (because yes I actually have whole conversations with them)live hundreds of miles away from their own children and families just to look after others in Dubai. I know a Nanny who looks after a 1 year old in our street, she has been here over 20 years. Her children, now grown up, have lived in her home country without her all this time. When I asked if she'd like to go home she said 'Yes, but now I am trapped, I should never have come in the first place'.
ReplyDeletePoor woman. I am proud to say that I teach my children to do their own chores because believe me when we head back home there won't be any 'help' for them then!